Making a Marriage
“There is much debate today over what is a legitimate marriage; does the Bible define marriage and if so, what is it?”
In Genesis two highlights the question of what constitutes Biblical marriage, first of all, when God observes, “It is not good that man should be alone.” Then God brings the animals to Adam and, I believe, Adam notices the same thing, “for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.” In other words, there was not a compatible partner for the life of Adam, as there was for the other created beings. No doubt, this raised a question in the mind of this extraordinary man.
Here’s what we know, and what Adam likely observed: first, the insufficiency of solitude. Man was created to be social and to relate to other beings, not just to God. Some may fancy themselves to be loners, independent, self-sufficient, but the fact is, man functions at his best in a society. Second, the inadequacy of substitutes. The animals were so far below him that they really were not sufficient to fill that role.
What God does next is not incidental to the story. He could have done any number of things to meet this need for man; what He had determined to do from the beginning was this: “I will make an help meet for him.” God had already designed the perfect solution to Adam’s dilemma. And the solution was to create a woman – and only a woman – to be the “help” or partner “meet” or appropriate for him. We see here the perfection of God’s completion. Adam’s response was clearly enthusiastic: “this is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh” – the two are literally a part of each other. The ensuing commentary is just as significant: “for this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shall cleave unto his wife.”
Here is the Bible pattern for marriage: one man, one woman, for life. Anything less than this, anything other than this, departs from God’s design.
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